Victim Mentality

Written by Sheila Hughes
I’ve taken quite a beating
People have done me wrong,
It hurts me down deep inside
I have a pity party all day long.

It’s always someone else’s fault
Why I act the way that I do,
I’m blameless for my actions
If I could, I sure would sue!

I’ll just choose a victim mentality
And take advantage, all I can,
If I scheme and work the system
Perhaps I’ll even get a free van.

God wants us to be responsible
We should work and not be lazy,
If we use our past as an excuse
Our reasoning could become crazy!

God will help us to forgive
Even though we cannot forget,
Choosing to let our past define us
May reward us with ill-gotten regret.
We live in a world where no one wants to take responsibility for anything. Everything going wrong is always someone else’s fault. Don’t blame me, is what we often hear. We’d rather look outside for a scapegoat than to believe we are at fault. Few feel they have need to repent of their own wrongdoing. Some may even blame their past as the reason they are still acting irresponsibly. Some say they had a bad childhood, an alcoholic parent, or divorced parents. Those things are real, but God is greater. None of us can afford to blame the past indefinitely. Some think they don’t have to work, after all, the government will give me handouts and all kinds of free things, so why would I be responsible and look for work. I’ll just be lazy. God holds us responsible to change our wrong ways. We shouldn’t blame, lie down, or keep allowing others to keep us supplied with all we need while we stay lazy. God is more powerful than anyone’s past. God may not make us forget our past, by erasing memory, but He can help us by taking the sting and paralyzing effect out of it in time.

Joseph was sold into slavery by his brothers. That hurt! Also, after being framed by Potiphar’s wife, he was thrown into prison, and forgotten. He made the best out of those horrible circumstances and God helped him prosper. Much later, Joseph married and had a son, he named him Manasseh, which means “to forget.” Joseph said, “It is because God has made me forget all my trouble and all my father’s household” (Gen. 41:51). He didn’t forget, but he chose to move on and forgive. God is more powerful than anyone’s past, no matter how bad it might have been.

Nothing about God will change. He expects us all to be responsible individuals. When we mess up, we are to own it, repent, and move forward, learning from our mistakes. We cannot blame the devil for everything! We choose what we will do or not do in life. We can be a victim of someone else’s wrong, but it doesn’t have to define who we are forever. God will help us when we cry out to him. God is watching how you choose to respond to your circumstances. Prayer can change us.

Sheila Wells Hughes, June 3, 2021, # 1034

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